I’ve come across something that has given me pause, something that I couldn’t figure out in my head right away.
I am a firm believer that you are perfect the way you are, right now, in this very moment. There is nothing wrong with you. You are not broken so you don’t need to be fixed.
There is an online personal trainer by the name of James Smith that I have come to admire. I appreciate his thought process about fitness as well as his no-nonsense communication. (He uses adult language and makes no apology for it, so if you look him up on FB or IG, you’ve been informed)
James wrote an email recently stating “things don’t have to be perfect to work incredibly well." Brilliant! It is also something I believe in whole heartedly, yet in my head I’ve always phrased it, you don’t have to be perfect to start. It was one of the things that got me moving last June and into the gym.
But I found myself struggling with the two concepts. "You are perfect the way you are" and "things don’t have to be perfect to work incredibly well". It sounds like I am saying two very different things yet, I think they are interconnected.
I fundamentally believe that people are perfect, just the mechanics of the human body alone is impressive. We all have a past, some pasts were intense and messed up. Some of us skated through life and some of us survived by the skin of our teeth. We may feel messed up inside have serious stuff to conquer. But with all of that, there is nothing “wrong” with us. Let that sink in, for some this will be a difficult concept to try on.
Then, I say you don’t have to be perfect to start. This thought is more about our ego, our relationship to those things they we know we “should” do or “need” to do to be a better person…blah blah blah (there is nothing wrong with us remember)
But those thoughts can often hinder us when we have goals we want to accomplish. You may want to lose weight, look better naked, have more self confidence in the skin you are in. Most of us know the steps we have to take to get some of that stuff taken care of. Eat right and exercise right? That is the nitty gritty, no nonsense answer - eat right and exercise. It seems to be a pretty simple concept. So, what stops us?
Some of us think we need to buy the right clothes in order to start exercising, or buy all the right groceries to start eating right, or print out all the right recipes. We may think we have to know all the right weights to lift or master all the exercises we need to do before we step foot in a gym. This isn’t just about exercise by the way. How many people think we need just the right notebook or planner before we can get our desk/life organized? (I am guilty of this)
Or that we have to have a list of all the things we want to take into our therapists office before we even call to make an appointment. Maybe its that we feel we need to have just the right thing to say in just the right way before we can post our blog or that I need to complete my personal training certificate before I can start sharing some of my thoughts or things I’ve learned.
Things do not have to be perfect to start. The more I blog the better I’ll get. The more I write down everything I eat the more conscious I’ll be about what goes into my mouth. The more times I go to the gym, the more I’ll learn about my body and what it can do. Going to the gym is something I have to recommit to on a weekly basis (that will be an upcoming blog).
So you are perfect, there is nothing wrong with you. Now stop worrying about having all your ducks in a row before you take that first step, whether it be out your front door with your sneakers on, or into the gym to lift weights, or before you make an appointment with a health professional. I can take that step, post my blog and watch how incredibly well it works out.
The point is to just take that step, then the next. Things do not have to be perfect to work incredibly well.
Thank you James Smith!
2017 ended about the way I expected, alone, lonely, throwing a small pity party. I had options but I let my pity party take over. It got me thinking about the new year and all of the messages of New Year New You!, blah blah blah. It is the new year but its also just the next day. A Monday like every other Monday except I don’t have to work today.
New Year New You…. But I’m not new today. I have work to do, some of the same work I had to do this time last year. I don’t mean to sound like a Negative Nelly, but I’m pretty practical. I think it is a good idea to have this fresh new look on life as the new year dawns. New possibilities, new adventures, new promises - a clean slate. Which, we could do any given day of the year, it is a new day, every 24 hours. We will want to keep this in mind for future reference because we will have some bad days, some great days and all the days in between. Every day could be a new year day.
I started this website because I had a vision. But I wasn’t ready to launch it. I had stuff to do. My vision for this website, for this business, Perfect The Way You Are, personal training for the mind, body & soul is to help others out there realize that there is nothing wrong with them. There is nothing wrong with you! You are perfect the way you are. Do you need to lose weight? Need to - No. Could it be beneficial for your life - Yes. Do you need to move more - No. Could it benefit you - Yes. Do you need to eat better - No. Could it benefit your life - Yes.
In this society we say, “I’m not perfect” or “Nobody is perfect” meaning we all make mistakes, which is true, we do make mistakes. Mistakes help us learn more about who we are. Even as I type this I want to use that phrase to describe how I’ve procrastinated the last 4 months and will most likely not pass my Personal Trainer test this January. However I am perfect the way I am… and I have work to do.
I have plans in 2018. Will I succeed? Yes. Will I fail? Also, yes! That is part of the adventure.
I think this site and future business could really help people. I will share my successes and my mistakes, my goals and losses, but most importantly I promise to be real. I will become a certified personal trainer in order to support people body, mind and soul.
Let me know what you think.